Learning to Conquer Imposter Syndrome

We’ve all probably heard this term, but what does it actually mean? Imposter syndrome is the idea that you’ve only succeeded due to luck, and not because of your qualifications or talent. Psychologically speaking, both men and women experience imposter syndrome when they aren’t able to internalize their own successes according to psychologist Audrey Ervin.

If someone is a “perfectionist”, they may be particularly vulnerable to imposter syndrome because of the high expectations they impose on themselves. This is particularly applicable to the legal field where most lawyers and law students are “perfectionists.” If you find yourself constantly asking: How did I get here? Am I smart enough to be here? Am I good at what I’m doing or am I just luck? Then, you’re probably experiencing imposter syndrome. Here are a few tips on how to deal with it:

1. Focus on what you’ve already accomplished and don’t compare that to what you had hoped to accomplish

Life is full of plans and “what ifs.” However, taking control of your own narrative and focusing on the great work you’ve already done can go a long way in conquering imposter syndrome. If you’re bashful or feel like you haven’t done enough to accomplish your plans, remind yourself of the amazing things you’ve already done! Succeeding at one thing and moving on to the next is great for upward mobility and accomplishment but take the time to sit down and just truly reward yourself for the amazing job you’re doing. It’s okay to be proud of yourself and your accomplishments, in fact, it’s necessary!

2. Remember that perfection is unattainable

The fear of not being perfect is exactly what leads to imposter syndrome. However, if we really delve into this thought, do you know a single perfect person? Perfection is a concept meant to make people feel inadequate if they aren’t living up to someone else’s idea of what they should be or should do. Our “imperfections” are what make us unique and successful and happy. Instead of framing your thoughts in terms of perfection, focus on what makes you happy and what makes you proud of yourself.

3. Remember that rejection doesn’t mean you aren’t successful

Maybe you didn’t get the grade you were hoping for, or you didn’t do as well in an interview as you would have hoped. Unfortunately, rejection is a part of the legal world. You can’t expect to ace every test or nail every job interview. We all learn something from every rejection, but that doesn’t mean that rejection defines our success. Focus on doing the best you can do, and realize that that’s good enough. This will help you conquer imposter syndrome and the emotions that come with it.

4. Realize you’re not alone!

Don’t be afraid to have open conversations with others, particularly about the challenges you’re feeling. This can help stop you from internalizing those frustrating thoughts about your own adequacy. It also helps to realize that you’re not alone, and it’s likely that your friends or family have experienced the same insecurities at one point or another.